10 .Surprising Reasons Women
Turn To Divorce
SPOILER ALERT: It's NOT money.
According to the National Center for Health
Statistics, women file for divorce two-thirds
of the time. A more amazing statistic is that when the couple are
college educated, divorce initiated by the wife is a whopping 90 percent! What's more
interesting that for the past 100 years the primary filer has been the woman.
The divorce rate began climbing at a drastic rate in the 70s. This
statistic correlates with the fact that beginning in 1969, states began
adopting "no fault" divorce laws and by 1985, all states had such a
law in place.
The "no-fault" divorce allowed a couple to
divorce due to irreconcilable differences. Prior to these laws, adultery or extreme cruelty required proof to
receive approval for a divorce.
Perhaps, this is the reason why many people think
that it's no big deal for a woman to go through divorce.
The truth is that divorce is extremely painful for all parties involved. Most
women do not want a divorce. They took their vows seriously and believed they
would be married for life. They want a partner, a friend, a lover and a mate
that cherishes them.
Even though many women work today, they are still held to
the standard of being the primary housekeeper and main caregiver of their
children. This adds an extreme amount of undue pressure on her. This means that
women actually have two jobs. In many workplaces, women are still dealing with
inequality, watching male counterparts get promotions, as they are blatantly
passed over time and time again.
Due to many women's beliefs —
beliefs passed down from mother to daughter for generations, they
still struggle with who they are and what roles in society they ought to fill.
It's an inner struggle that often leads a woman to put impossible demands on
herself. She wants it all and somewhere inside of her feels that she has to do
it all. Whilst at the same time she is screaming for help.
According to a Pennsylvania State University study, these are the top 10 reasons
why women divorce:
1. Infidelity
2. Incompatible
3. Drinking/Drug Use
4. Grew Apart
5. Personality problems
6. Lack of communication
7. Physical or mental abuse
8. Loss of love
9. Not meeting family obligations
10. Employment problems
2. Incompatible
3. Drinking/Drug Use
4. Grew Apart
5. Personality problems
6. Lack of communication
7. Physical or mental abuse
8. Loss of love
9. Not meeting family obligations
10. Employment problems
Surprisingly financial problems was
thirteenth on the list, which goes to show you that fighting over money
all the time (or lack of money) is NOT one of the primary causes of divorce.
Looking over the list is proof that
women want an equal partner.
When it comes down to it, both, men and women are looking
for the same thing — we all want a person that loves us unconditionally. A
partner that asks our opinion on important matters, trusts our decisions and
respects us as a person. We all want to feel appreciated. We do not want to
come second or third. When we talk, we want to feel heard.
At one time, there was love in the relationship. In order
to get married most couples had to have felt at least most of the above. They
felt on top of the world when they were with their partner. Then life
happens. Being different people, each person handles the stresses and pressures
of everyday life differently. Arguments begin and communication breaks down.
Oftentimes the woman will try anything to make her marriage work. She starts
reading books, trying new things, losing weight, buying new clothes and maybe
even taking up new hobbies — all in hopes to revive the love that was lost. She
only resorts to divorce as a last resort.
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